Mothering Tao

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Invaluable benefits of a planner August 21, 2009

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I am used to doing things in my head, fly by the moment and don’t give it a second thought. It’s just a habit of mine to wing it. But it doesn’t work as a busy mom of two working in and out of the home.

I finally resorted to using a planner. No. I don’t have an iPhone or a crack berry. I have one of those old school planners purchased from Target in the Back to School section. But so far, it has worked out for me. Every night before bed, I jot down what I need to accomplish the next day. On the weekend, I try to plan out dinner for the week. Although I may not necessarily stick to every meal I’ve planned, it’s still a good blue print. I shop wiser and faster this way. On the other hand, I do not beat myself up if I don’t check off an errand. I’ll schedule it for the next day.

The challenge is that this way of life is quite new to me. I wasn’t raised with a routine or much discipline when it comes to organization. So it is a constant reminder to myself that I need to pull out my planner from my mommy purse and see if I’ve missed anything for the day. But it has proved helpful more than once! For instance, I nearly missed my daughter’s piano lesson (even though she’s been taking lessons on the SAME day and SAME time for the past 8 months) and a doctor’s appointment had I not perused my trusty little planner. So there you have it!

If you’re thinking about becoming a momtreneuer, I’d say the a calendar planner whether it’d be on your phone or on paper can streamline your life. The seasoned WAHM already know this. It’s the only way to get things done and not lose your insanity, if you ask me.

 

Discontinued BECO Butterfly prints July 26, 2009

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These are prints that are sold out from the manufacturer, which means when they are sold out, they will no longer be listed. I happen to LOVE Allison because I think it’s elegant, gender neutral and incredibly gorgeous.

Beco Butterfly II Allison

Beco Butterfly II Allison

Beco Butterfly II Anna

Beco Butterfly II Anna

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Helping kids July 15, 2009

My toddler was reciting lines from his favorite cartoon while I was cooking dinner 2 nights ago. I soon realized the child can memorize lines like a professional actor. More importantly, he knew a LOT of lines from a LOT of shows! His repertoir ranged from Nickelodeon favorites such as Dora and Diego to Noggin’s up-and-coming “Yo Gaba Gaba” to Disney show tunes. After 2 seconds of parental pride, I realized my baby watches way too much T.V. What else is new?

I had boxes to open from a shipment, update inventory and finish cooking dinner before bedtime. But just as he was about to run back into the living room to soak up more show tunes on the Disney channel, I was suddenly desperate to come up with an alternative for T.V.

So I pulled up a step ladder to the kitchen counter and gave him some cheerios and raisins to play with. But he got tired really quick! He knew he wasn’t making edible food. Knowing I had to come up with enticing tricks fast, I gave him some lettuce to rip into shreds for dinner salad. That lasted for another 5 minutes. Before long, he ran off to play with his sister and turned on the T.V. again.

I know I’m suppose to have my kids T.V. free but if I’m not competely present with them as I juggle tasks. They can sense that half-ass attention and feel my guilt. It’s a no-win situation.

Luckily, dinner was served 15 minutes later. After dinner, the task of opening and shipment and doing inventory count has yet to be done. What are the kids suppose to do? Of course! I should’ve thought of this long ago! I put my kids to work:

1. My toddler took out packages of carrier in the giant brown boxes. He’d take each one out and then count them. He’d lose count and then start over. The process kept him busy while I tied up some administrative loose ends.

2. My little girl (8) helped me by clipping and pasting some shipping labels and prepared packages with invoices and cards.

3. When my daughter was finished, she helped my toddler recount the boxes and separating them into different prints.

Soon enough, shipment unpacked and inventory updated on my cart.

I saved the giant brown boxes and they made a “van” out of one of them with a wheel cut out from construction paper and cut out windows on each side. They painted the brown “van” the next day as I cooked dinner. A little messy but 100% better than watching another episode of “Sponge Bob Square Pants“!

 

Olives and Applesauce carriers coming soon! July 7, 2009

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I’m so pleased to be able to add a new line of soft structured carriers. In the fall, we will be stocking exclusive O&A (Olives and Applesauce) prints in very limited quantities.

O&A is a very coveted brand of carriers designed by a WAHM — Caren — who devised an ergonomic buckle carrier with bright designer prints to bring flair into the babywearing world. You can use the carrier from newborn into toddler years. My tall 3 yo still rides comfortably in 16″ body.

I am working on choosing a few strap colors that we will stock at the store. Next step, finding designer prints. FUN!

Best of all, prices will begin at $139!

Caren

Here are some prints I’m considering (please feel free to comment on alternative strap colors and whether or not you dig the color combo) :-) :

Kaleidoscope on Black canvas

Kaleidoscope on Black canvas

Sunshine on Espresso twill

Sunshine on Black Twill

Echino Menagerie on Espresso Twill

Echino Menagerie on Espresso Twill

 

New AngelPacks! May 9, 2009

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Angel Pack exclusives at our store! Check them out! Limited quantities and, right now, Teal Damask print is on sale!!! Only a few left!

RetroBlossom_swatchRetro Blossom on Black twill straps

Spa_swatch Spa on Espresso twill straps

TealDamaskTeal Damask (Echino) on Espresso twill straps

 

WAHM guilt March 28, 2009

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In the last issue of Mothering magazine, an article explored how work-at-home moms balance their success with personal lives. It got me thinking: how do I balance my children’s needs with the ongoing demands of a small home business?

Obviously, I don’t have a simple answer. But I do know this: I feel guilty all the time!

My best friend, who stays home full-time with her son, is always available to play with her whenever he demands that attention. When we’re on the phone, she’d cut me off and tend to her son on a whim. I don’t do that. Rather, sometimes I can’t do that. But more honestly, I choose not to do that when other tasks call for my attention. If it’s a customer service email, I tell my children to “wait until mommy is done working.” Oftentimes, it’s just site maintenance and paying bills. It’s awfully unfair. Why? These tasks do not have an immediate deadline. Like dirty dishes or laundry, they can be done later. Luckily, my children are old enough to be lost in their own imaginary world for hours. For instance, they are Juni and Carmen, going on a mission in the tropical isle of monsters. I can hear their gibber and jabber. And I’m free of guilt to work.

At the end of the day, I still feel guilty for leaving them to play on their own. I’m not that mother you’d see at the park enguled in imaginary play with their children, giggling blissfully under the sun as her rug rats tackle her to the ground. I’m the mom with my cup of coffee on the bench, texting while watching my kids go up and down the slide in yet another imaginary scenario. I wonder, how much of their imagination engenders out of necessity? I shudder at the thought of me being the culprit.

But they are happy, well-adjusted children. How did that happen? An accident, I’m sure. I’m naturally upbeat and optimstic, therefore, they have must have inherited that good gene from me. If I can spare more precious moments to watch them grown like sprouts…wait, I can! It’s my choice to take that time…so here I go. Off to the world of Spy Kids. Maybe I should google the premise of that movie first……

 

Spring and grand re-opening! March 21, 2009

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In celebration of Spring, we are re-stocking our store with quality, proven brands of baby carriers. Beco Butterfly II Spring collection is here as well as the new brushed canvas Pikkolo’s available with optional structured waist belt.

Personally, my favorite print of this season is “Grace.” It’s the name of my mother, who filled my childhood with vivid memories of babywearing. It’s also a vibrant yet classy rendition of florals set on dark brown background. Simply gorgeous and matches with any wardrobe!

Beco Butterfly II "Grace" NEW!

Beco Butterfly II "Grace" NEW!

The new hood on the Butterfly II’s is soft and contoured. It’s a much improved design to accommodate the sleeping baby. It’s detachable and come with every carrier purchase. When not in use, the hood can be tucked neatly folded in a discreet pocket built-in to the waist belt.

ButterflyII detail

ButterflyII detail

Now, I’m excited about the new Pikkolo’s because it’s now made with the popular brushed canvas, giving it an immediate soft and luscious feel to the carrier without having to break it in. The much sought-after print, Orbit, is available but limited quantities.

Orbit Pikkolo

Orbit Pikkolo

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First glimpse of the “Lotus” June 28, 2008

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I have been a nervous wreck anticipating the arrival of my carriers at the TBW conference in Chicago. It arrived this morning and it has been passed around conference halls. Thankfully, I have received positive and practical feedback which will be implemented into actual production of these carriers. The soft structured waist will remain built-in to the inside of the carrier, which is a hit. The baby’s legs will not stick out the bottom as is common with the traditional chunei. Minor changes will be made to eliminate the chafing around smaller babies’ legs and a more forgiving waist to accommodate various body shapes.

Naomi from Sobebabies snapped a photo of the carrier hanging at the top of my corner booth. :-) It’s one of my favorite prints: Daisy Dreams. Paired with Nutmeg straps, I think the blossoms really pop. sorry about the blurry pic.

 

Babywearing Conference 2008 June 26, 2008

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Words cannot express how sad I feel not being able to meet everyone, especially Naomi of Sobebabies who is caring for my 2 carriers. :-) I’ve asked Naomi to send me pics so I can feel like I’m there in spirit.

Sobebabies and Mothering Tao\'s booth during set-up

And here is a pic of the Puj Baby sling she’s clearing out for me. How cute is her Sobebabies outfit?

 

Should I start a babywearing business? April 21, 2008

I’m no business expert and certainly not one to give business advice. What I blog about are experiences, lessons learned from running a small WAHM business of my own. So please, consult a professional before you take heed to my ramblings here:

So to answer my title, SURE! The babywearing fever is catching on. It’s intuitive and more and more experts are agreeing on the benefits of babywearing, not to mention the practical aspects of parenting hands-free with a calm and happy baby.

BUT…before your babywearing fever drives you to take the plunge into starting a baby carrier business, check your inner voice. Is that voice saying, “wooo, imagine all the carriers that I’ll get to play with if I get to buy them at wholesale!” or is it saying, “I know it’ll be sweat and labor but gosh darn it, I’m passionate about making these products more accessible to a wider audience…” If it’s the latter, then you’re off to a good start. And if that voice is the first one, well, you already know right? It’s not a justifiable reason to embark on this very involved business adventure.

Now, the voice I fear most is this, “well, we need extra cash because I’m staying home with the baby / kids so I’ll just sew some mei tais or buy a few carriers and sell them to supplement our income.” I know it’s difficult to live on a single income for most families. But trust me, this is just about the most dangerous reason to start a baby carrier business. An Avon business. Sure! Bring in the extra cash! But to retail, much less manufacture, carriers is a painstaking venture.  So many SAHMs have decided to start a business selling carrier only to find out that it’s a high maintenance industry, meaning customers have more questions than say, someone buying a CD or a T-shirt. They’re not going to ask you how to put on the shirt or how to play the CD. With carriers, you will have to deal with more customer service-natured calls or emails regarding the comparisons of a carrier with another, what is the recommended age of the baby, how far does it adjust, what is the correct size, etc. And with the current baby carrier market, there are so many to choose from, the abundance of choice is requiring even more service on your end to make a sale happen. The biggie, though, is liability!!! If a carrier is recalled, you are responsible for making sure a customer is informed and the product is returned / handled properly in accordance with the recall. And God forbid should an accident occur, someone has to pay for the medical expenses associated with the injury. Insurance, then is a necessity. And at such, it is no bargain for the folks selling baby carriers to buy decent coverage.

Of course, I’m generalizing and perhaps even being overly negative. There are great rewards with running a babywearing business. When someone e-mails you their ah ha! moment, it’s priceless. And when you turn on a local mom to the joy of babywearing, the smile on your face will shine for days if not weeks when you run into her at the store wearing her baby like a pro!

In my previous post, I talked about the realities of time spent sustaining a business. It was not what I imagined it to be. Somehow, I figured, I could get everything done in 2 hours after the kids are in bed. Of course, that’s not the case.

I cringe for moms I hear wanting to start a internet business because “you never have to leave the house. How cool is that?” True. It’s a virtual business. But your time spent on the computer is very real. You may not leave the house but you cannot be fully present for your little one(s). You must multi-task between answering some emails and a must-be-done chore like making breakfast or washing the dishes before you run out of room in the sink. Adding to that, maybe mediate a fight or two between the siblings or finding something interesting to engage your child without resorting to Dora or Barney. The phone might ring and as you attempt to answer a question in the most professional business woman voice, you shout out, “NO! No baby! Don’t put your hand in there!!!” Shortly after, a shrieking voice sobs uncontrollably thus erasing all likelihood this phone call returning to that professional tone you had hope to convey.  Sounds like over-dramatization. But it’s not. I’m afraid.

In all honesty, I was that idealistic mom of two thinking I love babywearing, why isn’t anyone catching one? I’ve gotta jump in there and make it happen. After all, how involved can it really be? I just need a computer (which I already own…forget it’s a hand-me-down) and some money to start it up. Can’t be that hard. Over a year later, I’m still laughing at myself for being that naive. The time, the energy, the finance (which I will get to in another post).

Anyone who decides to pursue this business, my advice is to spend good amount of time researching your target audience. Who are they? Where are they? How will you get them to notice you? Then talk to some WAHMs and get a sense of what your life would be like. Most importantly, write up a business plan with REALISTIC goals. Don’t kid yourself and expect to blow up into Microsoft over night. Use a template, get a friend to help you or find a business consultant to advise you. The key is to have everything laid out so that you will be following a path rather than winging it along the way.

Happy venturing!!!